Surrendering not Suffering, Love not Fear, Joy not Sorrow & Row 1A in Paris
Have you ever thought… what it would feel like to Let Go?
Well, I did… here is what happened to me this week when I embraced all of me and I surrendered to my suffering.
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WHAT IF I JUST LET IT GO?
So, this week I realised that I was suffering not surrendering to a situation, that I wanted a desired outcome, and it was causing me considerable pain.
I also thought to myself, gosh did I really need to experience this, just for some juicy content for this week’s Luisa TV – I guess so?
So in my minor suffering I asked myself the question which is also the theme for this weeks episode;
WHAT IF I JUST LET IT GO?
And what I mean by that is, the need to control the situation, the need to know what will happen, the need to force and struggle with the what ifs and what nots…
This is a process called surrendering.
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO SURRENDER?
Letting go or surrendering is not, failure or defeat, a punishment.
Surrendering is the power to change us, it is a situation that we all encounter at some point in our lives, that can be big or small, can rock the foundations of who we are, pushes us to our extremes or just be uncomfortably fearful. This experience has the power to bring us to our knees and the power to change us.
I have found enormous relief when I have been able to detach from my mental story of how my life should unfold and I have to tell you I’m a whole lot happier, my thoughts are clearer.
I think the mind does this ‘control’ thing in order to keep us safe, trying to make sure that our lives contain the experiences we want and the ones we don’t but there comes a time when we can’t fight, push, struggle with what is and what will be anymore. This is where letting go begins.
Letting go of the need to control a situation or outcome is when ultimate freedom occurs, when we realise that we don’t know, and we are unable to see the full picture and all we can do is trust. Surrender happens when it can not happen.
Some people surrender to God, the Divine, the Creator, the Universe, to All that is, to a power that is greater than us and in fact this is an expression of our maturity.
WHY DO WE SUFFER?
Many of you are suffering great and small at this time, some of you may be worried about putting food on the table, or how you might make the next mortgage payment, or you have lost someone you love dearly, many of you may be experiencing loneliness and some of you may be suffering because he didn’t return your phone call or she didn’t say I love you. No matter how great or small your suffering is, what if you in this moment just let it go? The mental pain, the distrust.
When we do this, in this moment.
I don’t know the outcome, I cant force it anymore, it is accompanied by a great sense of relaxation and clarity of the bigger picture.
This letting go, is not at all weakness, in fact it is a great strength.
A strength in asking for help, slowing down, a newfound strength in vulnerability, to powerlessness and it is then we find our real power, the power of love. And I mean the self love, the love we discover when we finally break though to the collective beauty of who we are.
Pain and suffering is the gateway to love, to surrendering, letting go – wakes us up from our limited shell of existence, the narrow patterns of our lives, when we realise that we have the choice to be free on the inside.
WHY IS IT SO HARD TO SURRENDER & LET GO?
Because if we let go, we might lose that thing we wanted, that person, that belief, that feeling, that thing, that was going to make us happy or happier.
So we push, and fight and struggle and swim against the current and in doing this, we don’t get to see all the opportunities that are presented to us along the way.
We might have been taught to never give up? To fight till the end? If you really want something you have to struggle to achieve it? Right? Well perhaps not…
SUFFERING IS YOUR CHOICE?
Eleanor Roosevelt “If life were predictable it would cease to be life, and be without flavor.”
In life we don’t always know where we are going but we have a clear idea of how it will turn out based on our thoughts and emotions. In each moment we have a choice.
What do you choose?
QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF AND SEE WHAT YOU DISCOVER?
What do I want?
Why do I want it?
What would happen if I didn’t get it?
What do I get if I don’t surrender to it?
What am I learning from this?
How would I feel if I let go?
WHERE CAN YOU LET GO IN YOUR LIFE?
Where in your life can you let go of control? Where in your life can you surrender not suffer? Where in your life can you allow the will of a power greater than you, to bring to you what you are needing and wanting?
When you are able to accept what life offers you – let go – you become more peaceful and it is only then you can affect positive change.
And most importantly when you have joy, a positive mindset, you are much more likely to achieve the end you seek and find contentment in the journey of life despite the destination.
It all begins with Letting go. And it is from that place, you allow in something new.
Leave a comment, until next week.