What happens when a LOVED ONE DIES?

This week’s episode of Luisa TV I share What happens when a LOVED ONE DIES? Grief, Death & The Gift

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“Our loved ones have not left us, they are not gone.”

Grief is the price we pay for love, but there is an opportunity once we can move through grief to find the gift in death of a loved one.

Death and loss is one of the hardest things you may ever experience in this life, but it can also be a blessing, a gift an opportunity for us to transmute suffering into growth, sorrow into joy and despair into love.

We come here to experience the richness of life and all it takes is a choice, this is our freedom – in each moment, in each breath, we have a choice.

This is based on my own personal experiences and the hundreds of people I have interviewed about death and dying.

Firstly, death is part of life, there is no doubt at some point our physical body dies.

Grief is the price we pay for love, but there is an opportunity once we can move through grief to find the gift in death of a loved one. An incredible opportunity for spiritual growth, an opportunity to recognise that we are spiritual beings having a physical experience and an opportunity to transmute and transform suffering into a deeper understanding of consciousness and universal truths.

It is my belief when we die, that consciousness survives the body, the spirit, the soul lives on without physicality. Our essence travels to a higher dimension of consciousness, it met and guided by loved ones passes, guides and angels, all that can be called beings of light – that vibrate at a higher frequency that those of us on in physical matter.

We have a life review, where we see our life played out like a movie, there is no time – and this life review is an opportunity for us to understand how we learnt in the life, how we treated others and ourselves and it offers us – not a judgment – rather an evaluation of how we did and how we could improve. We then travel onto higher planes of consciousness – rest and then choose if and when we are to return or perhaps have other experiences in whatever form that may take, in other dimensions and realms.

I do believe that the significant events in our life are pre planned pre-birth, we come here to experience and learn and grow and, in our growth, we offer the opportunity to the collective consciously to grow and evolve. We are all intricately connected, we are single units of consciousness – in part of a greater collective of consciousness and the energetic web ties us all as a wholeness. Prior to our birth, we choose our soul experiences, lessons, soul purpose and path and while those are different for every soul – the fundamental reason for it all is love – love is what we are and fear is what we learn, so it is a return to love.

Love is the only thing that is real and everything else is an illusion.

So, when a loved one dies, the physical chord that connects you to them, there is an energetic chord, I see it like a very large spider web, it differs in size, depending on the connection, is severed – cut.

So essentially we grieve not only an emotional level but also a physical and spiritual level too.

 

DEATH OF MY MOTHER

From my own personal experience, last year my mother died very suddenly from a heart attack.

I knew something had happened, I woke up wanting to vomit, my body was offering me a sign.

My birth mother, my mother who had raised me, had left and the physical chord had been severed at the point of her death.

I asked for her forgiveness, we had some conflict before she transitioned, and she told me there was nothing to forgive.

She came to me often in the days after her death, not alone, but as a collection of energies, other energies, she was not a single unit, and she felt different, but there absolutely no doubt in my mind it was her.

My mother came to me after her death and communicated telepathically that she choses the exact point of death and that it was precisely timed for both her and anyone that was impacted by it on a sub conscious level.

She was experiencing more love that she had ever known in her physical incarnation.

She also conveyed 3 very clear messages, it is all about love, everything is going to be ok and you are not alone.

 

DEATH BLESSING AND THE GIFT

As I lay in bed in the days after her death, and in my walking moments, in all my moments, my body tingled. It was an energetic upgrade she offered me, a transition of energies, this was her gift to me.

I could feel the cells of my body, tingling and becoming brighter, it was like feathers all around me and inside of me, or the sensation of standing under a waterfall.

 

MOVING THROUGH GRIEF

There is no time frame and for everyone it is different.

Even though my mother came to me and I communicated with her, it was still brutal, even though she offered me spiritual gift, it was still hard.

My hands shook, I couldn’t control the shaking for a few days, I felt stuck in a cloud, a dark dark cloud and nothing seemed real. I would go for long walks, but I felt like a ghost, nothing seemed as it should be, I fought with grief. Energy does not disappear, it can only transmute and transform, but still I tried to fight grief, push it always in a desperate attempt to become the person I was before, grief has a way of coming to you unannounced and grips you in your most vulnerable moments, when you are at your lowest, hold on to you digs its nail in tight.

So I realised I could not fight it, the only way to get through this overwhelming grief, was to let it come, observe it, not fear it and as I did this over and over, it lost its power.

Now that does not mean I don’t miss my mother, I sometimes do miss her physical presence, but that I my story not hers, that is my longing not hers, that is my lack not hers, because I know in my heart, that she has never left, never gone and she is in a much more loving realm of consciousness and for that I am very happy for her. This is the love I have for her. The definition of true love is to allow the other person to be the best version of themselves and I know absolutely that my dear mother is shining – she is home. How could I not want that for her?

 

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DEATH IS NOT THE END

We come here to experience the richness of life and all it takes is a choice, this is our freedom – in each moment, in each breath, we have a choice.

Death and loss is one of the hardest things you may ever experience in this life, but it can also be a blessing, a gift an opportunity for us to transmute suffering into growth, sorrow into joy and despair into love.

There is no rush to the grief process, it can be brutal, there is no time, when you are ready allow will yourself to heal.

If you are experiencing loss my heart sends you great love and comfort.

Remember you are never alone, everything is going to be ok, and everything happens in divine order.

For the brave of heart nothing is impossible

Our loved ones have not left us, they are not gone.

 

MY ADVICE

I encourage you today to become the best version of you – remember you are already perfect, you are just remembering – allow yourself to align with love, always.

Recognise that life is a gift, the present, that’s why it is called the ‘present’.

Here is my advice to live your life without regrets and when you take your last breath you can say.

1. I found the courage to live a life true to myself, not what others expected
2. I found a work life balance
3. I expressed my true feeling
4. I stayed in touch with those that I loved
5. I allowed myself to be happy

 

Until next time, bye for now.